The end of a relationship can be accompanied by despair, despondency and even depression. You will probably know at least one person whose work performance plummeted after a relationship breakup—if you haven’t experienced this misfortune yourself.
William, a product manager with a large manufacturing firm had been seeing Caroline on a steady basis for nine months when she told him one evening that there just wasn’t enough in their relationship to warrant any further contact. This news came suddenly and unexpectedly and William was devastated. He did not arrive at work the next day and rang in to say he was sick and would not be at work for a week. When he did return, his colleagues remarked about how ill he still looked. William said he had a severe case of influenza and hoped to bounce back quickly. In reality, it took William months to overcome the trauma of his severed relationship. During that period, his work performance was most decidedly down. His confidence and general outlook on life were also at low ebb. Fortunately, he had the good sense to see a professional about his emotional state, a move which facilitated his recovery.
Relationship termination generally is a traumatic experience and the repercussions can last for months, possibly years. What can be done to help bounce back more quickly? Here are a few suggestions.
- Discuss the termination with your ex-partner so that you understand clearly why the relationship ended. A rational understanding can help salve the hurt feelings and help prevent avoidable mistakes from recurring.
- Consider discussing the matter with a close and trusted friend. His or her perceptions of you and your ex-partner can possibly enhance your understanding of the failed relationship.
- Try to get back into a structured routine. Strong emotional feelings are much more likely to overwhelm you when you are alone, idle and unoccupied.
- Be certain to occupy potentially lonely evenings and weekends with interesting and preoccupying activities. You can keep the blues at bay by being actively involved with friends or interesting pursuits.
- Refrain from accepting full blame for the severed relationship. Remember, it takes at least two people to create a disagreement.
- Use your newly acquired spare time (time previously spent with your partner) to take up activities which you never had time to pursue before.
- Avoid sitting at home and ruminating about the relationship. If it’s over, it’s over and brow beating will only give you a headache.
- Plan two or three positive events for each day. Buy yourself a special treat (avoid using food as a treat, especially if overeating can be a problem), go to a movie you’ve wanted to see, or ring an old friend who makes you feel good. Look forward to these events each day.
- If being in a relationship is very important to you, strike out and meet some new people. However, be cautious about rebounding from one disappointing experience into another.
Thus, a relationship termination can cause personal and occupational havoc. It is important to address the situation directly by planning your days and occupying your mind. Ruminating will only prolong the agony. If your efforts at bouncing back do not succeed, then consult a helping professional for assistance.
Possibly related posts: (automatically generated)
Hate (Despair, Despondency and Depression) at work, how to Dealing Working Relationship
- Hate (Despair, Despondency and Depression) at work, Hate and Jealousy at Work
- Love (Exciting, Depressing, Challenging, and Frustrating) at Work
- Investing in your best is ... The Fairest thing to do
- Innovation is Universal
- Making the Grade in a New Position
- The Art of Interviewing for Talent "Which are the right questions to ask?" part 3
- Business conflict, Resolution is Non-rational
- Cash Flow: The Business Lifeline
- Take and Keep the Lead (Continue..)
- Involved in Success New Products and Product Improvements continue...
Posted by: arlene
Categories:
