Hate (Despair, Despondency and Depression) at work, how to Dealing Working Relationship

Posted by: arlene on Friday, 11th Jul, 2008

The end of a relationship can be accompanied by despair, despondency and even depression. You will probably know at least one person whose work performance plummeted after a relationship breakup—if you haven’t experienced this misfortune yourself.

William, a product manager with a large manufacturing firm had been seeing Caroline on a steady basis for nine months when she told him one evening that there just wasn’t enough in their relationship to warrant any further contact. This news came suddenly and unexpectedly and William was devastated. He did not arrive at work the next day and rang in to say he was sick and would not be at work for a week. When he did return, his colleagues remarked about how ill he still looked. William said he had a severe case of influenza and hoped to bounce back quickly. In reality, it took William months to overcome the trauma of his severed relationship. During that period, his work performance was most decidedly down. His confidence and general outlook on life were also at low ebb. Fortunately, he had the good sense to see a professional about his emotional state, a move which facilitated his recovery. ..more

Love (Exciting, Depressing, Challenging, and Frustrating) at Work

Posted by: arlene on Friday, 11th Jul, 2008

Love and hate are potent feelings which can overwhelm you, often just when your emotions can least afford the upset. For example, how often have you experienced the following situations?

  • Feelings of love interfere with your concentration at work.
  • You love (and sometimes hate) a person who doesn’t love you.
  • You hate your boss or a colleague.
  • You’re jealous of the attention given to a person you love.
  • You love a person working nearby, but fear acting upon your feelings.
  • You were in a relationship until yesterday when your partner said, Enough! ..more

Making the Mentor Connection

Posted by: arlene on Saturday, 12th Apr, 2008

Mentoring isn’t new. What is new is that it’s more important as a career tool for senior managers than it was in the past.

The old theory about mentoring was that it was a stage you went through and eventually outgrew as your career advanced. This is no longer true. At the higher rungs of the corporate ladder, career paths are more complicated, pointing up the benefits of either having a mentor or acting as one.

Realizing the importance of mentoring, a number of prominent companies (Johnson & Johnson, Merrill Lynch, Bell Labs, National Cash Register) have established formal mentoring programs. Bright managerial prospects are assigned a mentor rather than having them go through the accidental, often serendipitous, process of finding one on their own. ..more

The Employee Who Goes Over Your Head

Posted by: eric on Wednesday, 26th Mar, 2008

You have been aware of the situation for some time now. Bits and pieces of overheard conversations, some rather telling comments from your boss, cryptic glances from some employees. Putting it all together, it seems to add up to one thing: One or more of the people who report to you are going behind your back, taking ideas, complaints, whatever, directly to your boss while bypassing you.

But though you are aware of what is happening, you don’t know why it is. “And that’s something I’m going to have to find out,” you tell yourself. “I’m getting it from both sides—and I have to find a way to put an end to it.” Now you wonder, just what is the best approach to take in a situation of this kind? ..more

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